I've always been one of those people who isn't very open but lately I've been thinking about secrets.People all over the world look for places to post their own secrets anonymously: websites, magazines, newspapers, etc. What I wondered is why they do this? If they really didn’t want to share their secret why post it somewhere the whole world can access it? I mean I guess in this way the people they are close to can’t tell who it is and coming from my own prospective this is better but then I think back.
Whenever I share a secret to someone close by to me it always makes me feel happier. Letting something out to another means a lot to people and to my own self and in the end it was the right thing to do.
If someone keeps something from another this usually causes issues later when the secret is later discovered. What is usually said then? “If you had told me earlier it would have been OK”. So why don’t people take this advice? I would like to know what the world would be without secrets. What if everyone knew everything? Would that be too much or would the world function better? Secrets cause anxiety and stress but would no secrets be too revealing? When does the line between knowing “too little” and knowing “too much” cross in the perfect balance? What don’t we know about our president, our teachers, our parents? How would our lives change if we did know these things? Secrets are really quite powerful. I know I’m a hypocrite in my own belief of sharing but I still wonder.
I often wonder the same thing. Have you ever heard of the website www.postsecret.com? It is exactly the type of thing you are talking about. Anyone can mail in a postcard with their secret on it and then have it posted on the web. I think this appeals to people because the secrets are read by people and are shared with strangers. These people can obviously not share these secrets with their loved ones, so they share them with strangers and maybe even hope that others in the world share their secrets.
ReplyDeleteYah I have heard of it. it's actually a link in "places" that is bolded and blue. It's one of the things that really got me thinking about this. I find it interesting how they share their secrets to the whole world though. I guess they could be teaching the world a lesson which in that case it is a very self-less thing to do. But if they are trying to get away from sharing something that could actually help them out they are just hurting themselves.
ReplyDeleteI think the reason for using these anonymous secret posting applications is to try to get the positive effects of telling a secret, such as having it off your chest,and coming out in the open, without facing the negative effects; hurting someone, lessening your image, or facing the trials associated with that secret. However, it's not possible to get all of the positive effects out of something without facing negative consequences. Like you said, they are just hurting themselves- this method of telling the secret merely makes you feel better but doesn't solve the problem.It's not really facing the problem at hand, and facing it is the only way to make it go away.
ReplyDeleteI believe that is only human nature to keep, tell, and have secrets. We all are imperfect beings, so we all have things that we may regret or be ashamed of. I agree with you, I am happier when I am able to open up to someone and let them know about a secret I have. But secrets are secrets for a reason. If I have done or said something wrong or embarrassing, it is probably for a good reason. There are extremes, though. One of my biggest pet peeves is when people are so ashamed to be silly or themselves. I believe the best part of meeting and befriending someone is getting to know the real them - past all the social boundaries. If everything was already put out there, why even bother getting to know this person? If everything about that person was written on their face, would you not value the process of getting to know them much less? I would hate to live in a world where I thought everyone was terrible because of their mistakes, and I believe that secrets are a fine way of letting us not assume the worst about people upon first glance.
ReplyDeleteIf I have done or said something wrong, is it probably a secret for a good reason*
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